Introducing help into the home at a reasonable pace is the third of three steps in overcoming resistance to help. To recap, Step one had us reflecting on our attitudes and words and how they build resistance instead of getting us closer to our goal. Step two had us gathering the resources and building community support. Now, you’re ready to start introducing the help you feel your elderly parents need to keep them independent at home.

Sudden change is often understandably met with sudden resistance. This is true for our elderly parents, as it would be true for us. We’re usually able to understand when help is needed (even if denial cloaks our words), but we’re also fearful of aging, changes and the unknowns lying in wait. That is where resistance comes from. So if you’ve tried to bring help home and have been met with resistance, follow these steps; 1) start slow, 2) keep the process visible, and 3) monitor progress. This can make the transition easier.

Balancing professional caregiving with your personal caregiving responsibilities can be discussed with your Premier Homecare Services Care Coordinator. They’ll help you plan a schedule that starts slowly and respects your parents’ anxieties while at the same time guides them towards a schedule customized to their needs.

Discuss openly what is happening with your elderly parent. Advise them that you’re hiring a professional to come and help with A and B so they can feel less burdened. Even if they have a level of dementia that makes them feel confused about the situation, you should explain step by step what is happening. It would be worse for them to feel as though they’re being deceived. Set a calendar in a visible location and put down the day when the Care Coordinator will visit for an initial meeting, perhaps with the caregiver present. Set the next dates and times so nothing is hidden or unknown.

Meeting the caregiver ahead of time or making the first visit a casual “getting to know each other” meeting can make the transition easier. With the caregiver’s permission, take a photo and place it on the calendar.

The relationship between client and caregiver is an intimate, professional relationship and should be respected as such. And like any relationship, they can take some time to develop.

Finally, you want to monitor the schedule. Is it too much, too quickly? Or is your parent feeling in control and well-assisted? Should you adjust the schedule? Keeping in close communication with your Premier Care Coordinator is very important during this initial stage to help build the relationship of trust and openness.

How have these steps helped you? Have you implemented changes in your goal towards getting the necessary help for your loved ones in a communicative, cooperative way? We’d love to hear from you so please comment below!

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