Recently, I picked up a library book by Paolo Coehlo titled The Zahir, and read about a conversation had amongst wealthy, prominent types at a gala dinner. In the book, the narrator decided to change the typical pace of things yet figured discussing your own funeral would most definitely be a taboo.
Interested, I browsed online to see whether other people are talking of their funerals and quickly found that yes they are, and not only that but have also navigated for us the journey towards death including the signs and processes of dying, as well as an ample sharing in the fears of dying.
Why is dying – such an absolutely universal occurrence, something that not one of us can prevent, avoided in face-to-face conversation, discussed online in code names and generally seen as imparting bad luck to the sharer? Has anyone reading this blog thought about their own funeral? Have you imagined who would be there, what they would say and (what seems to be a popular comment) which music would best represent you and the life you lived?
Paolo Coehlo then writes on his blog that death is perhaps one of the most important things in life and that planning for your funeral isn’t such a bad idea:
“We are all walking towards death, but we never know when death will touch
us and it is our duty, therefore, to look around us, to be grateful for each minute.
But we should also be grateful to death, because it makes us think about the
importance of each decision we take, or fail to take; it makes us stop doing
anything that keeps us stuck in the category of the “living dead” and, instead, urges
us to risk everything, to bet everything on those things we always dreamed of doing.”
After reading this I have to say I agree with his approach that death is something that should remind us to live the life we want, now, not waiting for an “if” or a “when” to happen. That reminding yourself that death is always waiting for us, so consider the legacy you’re creating now.
If you haven’t thought about your funeral perhaps you’ll be encouraged to sit with yourself a moment and meditate on exactly that. Think of the lives you’ve touched, the differences you’ve made and the smiles you’ve shared…
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